This matter sits heavy on my mind, wrestling with my age and the beliefs I hold dear. Permit me declare:
culture defines us, shapes our very being
I do not seek to challenge the wisdom of my ancestors nor their ancient ways. Though some may deem their practices archaic and regressive, within them lie nuggets of wisdom guiding our path. Yet, in our pursuit of so-called civilization, we forsake our own heritage for that of the white man, a culture bent on our destruction.
To your queries regarding dowry and tradition, I shall provide insight. Having been nurtured and schooled in the village, and having partaken in the rituals of dowry, I speak with authority:
- Should a man depart this life before settling his dowry debt, it becomes imperative to fulfill this obligation. Payment must be made whilst he rests in the morgue, denying his spouse the customary rite of casting sand upon his grave, a gesture of farewell. This, my friends, is an irrevocable decree.
- If a man breathes his last before honoring his dowry, he shall forever be deemed unwed, regardless of offspring. Hence, young lovers are advised to promptly settle this matter upon union. For those who dare defy such customs, nature exacts its punishment, evident to all who observe.
- In the event of a woman’s passing prior to dowry payment, the obligation remains. Only upon fulfilling this duty can the man rightfully claim her as his wife. Failure to do so consigns her to burial within her father’s abode.
I am aware that diverse cultures possess their own customs. It behooves me to seek understanding of their practices in similar circumstances. Here, dear Machera, I pause, awaiting furtherΒ discourse.
